The kind of change that lasts.
Stories from people who came to coaching at different stages of life—and the patient, practical work that shifted what they thought was possible.
Stories shared with permission. Names and identifying details are withheld to protect client confidentiality.
Relationship Coaching Client · Wife & MotherTwo and a half years after starting, I can honestly say I am a different person. After 6 years of marriage, I was convinced that we needed marriage counseling—and that my husband needed therapy more than I did. He refused, so week after week I saw a well-known psychologist alone. I learned to vent very well, and to hide from my husband almost everything he didn't agree with. After 4 years, I'd had enough.
So when a friend introduced me to the idea of having a life coach, I wondered if I really needed to pay more money to vent. The answer was probably not, but I eventually decided to give it a try. It's a good thing I did, because the result was life changing.
I have now learned to use incredible tools that can help me through the toughest of situations when dealing with those around me, most importantly my husband and children. The rabbi has taught me about a tool called elegance. As a result of my elegance, arguments have a different flavor. They are frequently one-sided (which doesn't really qualify as even an argument), much quicker, and are much more seldom. I don't engage anymore in crazy fights. It's not elegant. When I feel threatened by my husband, I learned how to get curious and how to interview him. These two tools help me to understand his way of thinking, even if I feel the opposite way as he does. It also allows for a new openness between us. He feels I care more, and that is a reflection of the truth. I also learned how to radiate my happiness to him and my children and the difference between influencing him and informing him.
But most of all, I have learned how to believe in myself. I carry with me a new confidence that I didn't have before and I make decisions now that I couldn't have made before. I don't hide life from my husband simply because I have nothing to hide. Challenges still arise, and so do setbacks. They are simply a part of life. However, my victories are many. Each success gives me more reassurance that with my coach's help, I am finally on the right track to being the best wife and mother possible.
I was hesitant about the idea of being "coached" at first, but Shmuel Goldstein immediately made me feel comfortable, more like guys talking comfortably than a "counselor/client" relationship. As a result of working with Shmuel, I've learned much about what it means to be a man in today's world and today's relationships, and how to integrate that into my daily life and business practices. He helped me find my inner sources of courage, enabling me to step into and live with both strength and gentleness—how to be a true "gentle-man." Worth the investment!Men's Coaching Client